I went through this phase, last year where I was constantly on the hunt for the perfect red lipstick. Prior to that, my "lipstick" collection only consisted of various shades of nude lip glosses. Nude. The color I felt most comfortable in. My reasoning was that nude would somewhat conceal my already full lips.
Years ago, I read a short article in a fashion magazine where a woman described the exhilaration she experienced after wearing a "red lip" daily for a week. I can't recall the last time I saw someone sporting red lipstick in the middle of the day. It's just not something that happens regularly. So when I chose to seek out bright, red lipstick, I was making a proclamation. The simple act of wearing a bold color on my lip was sending a clear message to myself (and the world) that I've embraced the parts of myself that I've previously suppressed. I'm actually inviting people to notice me versus being in my old way of wanting to disappear in the crowd of non distinct faces. Wearing red lipstick, for no special reason, was a sign of courage.
When we think of the word "fears," we generally focus on the big scary ones like the fear of heights, flying, fear of speaking publicly. But I invite you to be present to your "discomforts." Our discomforts are the things we typically avoid but don't publicly claim as a fear. But it is. I had a fear of standing out because of wearing a bright red lip. But, age related wisdom has taught me that I must hold my head high, take a deep breath and step forward in the direction of my
One challenge that I've set for the remainder of the year, is to consistently tackle my discomforts. There's always something great available on the other side of comfort. The new found sense of accomplishment, the bravery I can take with me when I face my next challenge, all of that will be mine. And all that was required was the boldness to up-apologetically wear a red lip.